Fixing a Problem to Create Other Problems: HoL 135
Humans of Lagos
"When my father died, my mother was evicted from her matrimonial house by her in laws.
They alleged that she had hands in her husband's death, hence, she's not eligible to stay on on the properties.
They forced my sister and I out of the house as well, leaving our mother to raise us all by herself.
She felt it, deeply, the inequality that was meted out on her because she's a woman.
She told us that she couldn't fight for her right because she was raised to see herself as a "weaker sex", there at the whim of the male.
So while raising us, she changed the established dogma. Raising me soft and my sister strong. My sister was the bully and I the coward."
I grew up becoming too soft to fit into the patriarchal structure designed for men as a result.
I'm all alone now.
My mother instituted a Cobra Effect, starting another problem with the one intended to end the existing one.
© FERT, 2018
"When my father died, my mother was evicted from her matrimonial house by her in laws.
They alleged that she had hands in her husband's death, hence, she's not eligible to stay on on the properties.
They forced my sister and I out of the house as well, leaving our mother to raise us all by herself.
She felt it, deeply, the inequality that was meted out on her because she's a woman.
She told us that she couldn't fight for her right because she was raised to see herself as a "weaker sex", there at the whim of the male.
So while raising us, she changed the established dogma. Raising me soft and my sister strong. My sister was the bully and I the coward."
I grew up becoming too soft to fit into the patriarchal structure designed for men as a result.
I'm all alone now.
My mother instituted a Cobra Effect, starting another problem with the one intended to end the existing one.
© FERT, 2018
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How do you raise a child "soft" though? 🤔
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