Wife, Beat your Husband not His Sidechick: HoL 137
Humans of Lagos
"Today, I went to put fragranced flowers on my mother's grave. She died 5 years ago. She was my first unlettered feminist, my jewel of inestimable value.
Shortly after my 18th birthday when we were living in the slum, a married man who lived three houses away from ours proposed extramarital affairs to me. As a young curious girl, I accepted.
Though the man promised to make our affair a secret, he backtracked and bragged.
His wife got a wind of it and made a move to remedy the situation. She came to my mother's house, berating me for having an affair with her husband.
Surprisingly, my mother stood against her. She lashed at the woman for not dealing with her husband that made a promise he couldn't keep to her but coming for her daughter instead.
Even though I was ashamed of myself, I realised my mother was radically wise. She addresses the other woman fiercely but objectively.
Though people in our vicinity felt awkward about her decision, she raised her head high.
She sat me down afterwards, then warned me to consider my actions before embarking upon them.
It's not worth it for women to be fighting themselves over a man."
© FERT, 2018
"Today, I went to put fragranced flowers on my mother's grave. She died 5 years ago. She was my first unlettered feminist, my jewel of inestimable value.
Shortly after my 18th birthday when we were living in the slum, a married man who lived three houses away from ours proposed extramarital affairs to me. As a young curious girl, I accepted.
Though the man promised to make our affair a secret, he backtracked and bragged.
His wife got a wind of it and made a move to remedy the situation. She came to my mother's house, berating me for having an affair with her husband.
Surprisingly, my mother stood against her. She lashed at the woman for not dealing with her husband that made a promise he couldn't keep to her but coming for her daughter instead.
Even though I was ashamed of myself, I realised my mother was radically wise. She addresses the other woman fiercely but objectively.
Though people in our vicinity felt awkward about her decision, she raised her head high.
She sat me down afterwards, then warned me to consider my actions before embarking upon them.
It's not worth it for women to be fighting themselves over a man."
© FERT, 2018
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I never understood fighting the other woman, or in this case, a child. Address your spouse who broke his/her commitment and vows to you. No one else owes you sh*t, but them. 🗣
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