Humans of Lagos Episode 38
Humans of Lagos
It was when my second marriage crumbled that I really performed a sincere self evaluation on myself to determine if I was actually innocent or guilty.
My first wife left me on the basis that I was not loving and caring enough, she complaint that I didn't give her much of my time. I assumed within me that she's just a nagging and overbearing wife. Our union produced a female child, surprisingly, my own daughter opted to follow her mother not me. I work so hard to keep my home, she was a full house wife due to our mutual consent; I couldn't have imagine what else she wanted from me.
My second wife didn't leave without creating scenes, she fought me bitterly, and then accused me of loving my own mother than her office as a wife. She suggested that I marry my own mother in her place. Her words sent shivers down my spine. I thought I've always been a good husband wanting the best for my family, but I couldn't understand why I couldn't sustain my own marriages.
My own parents were loving and understanding people, I remember how they ran the affairs of the home in equity and equality. Death took my father in the year I got employed to my place of work.
I took my mother away from the village to the city to be with me in my own matrimonial home. My first wife's consent was sought for, and she accepted. Now I admit, I gave my mother much preference above my wife. I handled my wedlock as if my mother is the god of the union. Oh this must have hurt my first wife so deeply. She love me so much, but I was unable to balance things between her and my mother.
My mother is an understanding woman, who always want the best for me. She counseled me against the preference I was giving her. Nay, I didn't heed. My second marriage exposed me to my folly.
The role of a mother is quite different from that of a wife...no wonder, a man will leave his father and mother to unite with his wife.
I didn't learn early that a mother eagle will lift his eaglet up above the sky, and train it in the acts of survival and learning to be alone.
My first wife remarried, but her marriage is crumbled just like my second one too...I still love her and I know she'll still do same for me. I will swallow my ego, and go for me second love again.
We learn in life, we don't fail.
It was when my second marriage crumbled that I really performed a sincere self evaluation on myself to determine if I was actually innocent or guilty.
My first wife left me on the basis that I was not loving and caring enough, she complaint that I didn't give her much of my time. I assumed within me that she's just a nagging and overbearing wife. Our union produced a female child, surprisingly, my own daughter opted to follow her mother not me. I work so hard to keep my home, she was a full house wife due to our mutual consent; I couldn't have imagine what else she wanted from me.
My second wife didn't leave without creating scenes, she fought me bitterly, and then accused me of loving my own mother than her office as a wife. She suggested that I marry my own mother in her place. Her words sent shivers down my spine. I thought I've always been a good husband wanting the best for my family, but I couldn't understand why I couldn't sustain my own marriages.
My own parents were loving and understanding people, I remember how they ran the affairs of the home in equity and equality. Death took my father in the year I got employed to my place of work.
I took my mother away from the village to the city to be with me in my own matrimonial home. My first wife's consent was sought for, and she accepted. Now I admit, I gave my mother much preference above my wife. I handled my wedlock as if my mother is the god of the union. Oh this must have hurt my first wife so deeply. She love me so much, but I was unable to balance things between her and my mother.
My mother is an understanding woman, who always want the best for me. She counseled me against the preference I was giving her. Nay, I didn't heed. My second marriage exposed me to my folly.
The role of a mother is quite different from that of a wife...no wonder, a man will leave his father and mother to unite with his wife.
I didn't learn early that a mother eagle will lift his eaglet up above the sky, and train it in the acts of survival and learning to be alone.
My first wife remarried, but her marriage is crumbled just like my second one too...I still love her and I know she'll still do same for me. I will swallow my ego, and go for me second love again.
We learn in life, we don't fail.
Marriage is a mystery of God and can never be decen by human knowledge.if all those reading g my comment believe in trinity so it is with marriage.Two becoming one, is it not a mystery.We need God wisdom and spiritual principle to make our marriage work.God say for these reasons a man and a woman should leave their family and come to gather as one and Paul also admonished is that man love ur wife as christ love the church by sacrificing Himsef anf woman be submissive to ur husband in everything God has given unto u.Our mother of then in their nativity do the priciple of submission very well and that why majority of their marriage works to some extent.if we all need to male out marriage work we need tp go back to the begini g and follow it to letter and to some who are having issues in their home, patient is the key. This problem doesn't start in a day so it take a while for it to easy our as long as we have right our wrong.God will help us.We should go back to basic and not allow modernisation to dictate and determine what and how we run our home.I repeat my self MARRIAGE IS A MYSTERY.
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